Even though our culture is obsessed with serving up sex on every possible platter, we don’t have to give in to tantalizing temptations. It is possible to live in a sexually saturated society and resist temptation.
Here are 8 tips to help:
- Know what the Bible has to say when it comes to dealing with sex. Jesus knows the emotional, physical, and spiritual fallout people experience when they cheapen sex and reduce it to pure pleasure. Therefore, biblical guidelines are not meant to be restrictive or puritanical, but protective. They lead to healthy relationships and help us maintain dignity and self-respect. If you don’t know what the Bible has to say on the topic of sex, spend time searching Scripture. The Scripture is clear that the power of the Holy Spirit in us can help us be victorious over any temptation.
- Remove sources of sexual temptation. Temptation is not a sin but acting on it is. If you find yourself lustfully fantasizing and engaging in behavior you know to be morally wrong, then identify the source of that temptation and remove it. The Internet may be one of those sources. Although we hear more about men being addicted to Internet pornography, women also struggle with this addiction. Purchase a good filter and monitor your viewing habits and do what you must to remove the temptation. The Bible instructs us to flee from sexual temptation, not log on and hope it doesn’t impact us.
- Be obedient. Don’t be ruled by passion. No matter what you feel, act with your thinking brain and not your emotions or body. Scripture is clear that sexual behavior is always subject to our will. Use your will to resist temptation and say no.
- Renew your mind daily. Think on things that are noble, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous and praiseworthy (Phil. 4:8). This must be a daily intentional practice. It is easy to allow our thoughts to wander and fantasize about sex. So be mindful of your thoughts and renew them with the things of God.
- Don’t put yourself in the position to be tempted. In the same way that a recovered alcoholic shouldn’t go sit in a bar and try not to drink, don’t position yourself to be tempted (e.g., go to X rated movies, read steamy sexually explicit novels, hang out in bars, get drunk or high, etc.). When Satan tempted Eve, she engaged him. Instead of telling him to go crawl somewhere else, she entertained his conversation. Learn from her mistake.
- Use God’s Word to resist. When Satan tried to tempt Jesus in the desert, Jesus’ defense was to speak the Word. Satan had no authority over The Word and gave up. This speaks to the importance and power of knowing and memorizing scriptures. If Jesus, who was the Word, fought temptation with the Word, what better line of defense could we employ?
- Don’t lie to yourself. Most of us think we can handle a lot more sexually explicit material then we can. We aren’t always aware of the subtle influence and desensitization that happens with regular exposure to this material. We deceive ourselves and think we are above these influences. If you are human, you are not!
- Stay intimately connected with God. Spend time in prayer, reading the Bible and worshipping God. Remember, when you are weak, He is strong. Most of us give in to temptation when we are out of touch with God. Even though He never leaves us, we can stop communicating with Him. Stay connected and dependent on Him to give you what you need to overcome, and He will do what He says. The more intimate you are with God, the more power you have to resist.